Reasons why I can’t let go of wanting a relationship

[tree]

That makes me think of machinery.
Like the 'mindset' is something these people
have welded on to you.

 

[Markness]

That makes me think of machinery.
Like the 'mindset' is something these people
have welded on to you.

I was constantly psycho-emotionally abused by my parents and the people they associated with. Anything I said or thought was “wrong”, “silly”, “stupid”, and “gay.”

 

[tree]

I see you're using the past tense verb "was."

 

[Markness]

I see you're using the past tense verb "was."

I am able to tell my parents to back off now.

 

[Markness]

What do you think? Are you 'too old' or 'strange'?

The opinions of others are just that. Opinions. Do they live your life? Do they stick to you in your day by day? No. So thier veiws and thoughts are irrelevant to you. Each person has a right to do as they will, within the law of course.

I don’t think I am old. As far as ‘strange’ goes, I don’t find the term necessarily negative. I like Salvador Dali and H.R. Giger paintings which are generally considered strange.

I live my life and I constantly have the opinions going in my head because so many things bring them to mind.

 

[Mary Terry]

According to one of my detractors, I’ve wasted my life. I don’t see how that is going to help me.

Ignore your detractors and live your own life. It is not wasted. Every minute is precious. Use those minutes wisely and let go of what other people say or think.

 

[Markness]

Ignore your detractors and live your own life. It is not wasted. Every minute is precious. Use those minutes wisely and let go of what other people say or think.

It’s easier for me as the years go on. I only wish I could post about achievements in the mean time.

 

[Markness]

I’ve been accused of a lot of wrongful things for why I don’t have a girlfriend.

 

[Mary Terry]

It’s easier for me as the years go on. I only wish I could post about achievements in the mean time.

Markness - you have a job which many people don't have. You can always post about your job, your accomplishments at your job, and things you've learned along the way. Those are definitely worthy achievements that many people never succeed in doing.

 

[Rodafina]

Markness - you have a job which many people don't have. You can always post about your job, your accomplishments at your job, and things you've learned along the way. Those are definitely worthy achievements that many people never succeed in doing.

@Markness
I would like to hear more about your job. It sounds interesting and it is not the easiest kind of job to get. (I have tried because I think working in a library would be pretty cool, but I don’t have the qualifications.)

 

[Markness]

@Markness
I would like to hear more about your job. It sounds interesting and it is not the easiest kind of job to get. (I have tried because I think working in a library would be pretty cool, but I don’t have the qualifications.)

It’s honestly only been a truly peaceful environment since the second half of 2022. Before the current director came along and fired the work bully as well as modified the aesthetics, it was a unhappy place.

Some things that have remained consistent at it are that the adult section is on the second floor while the children’s is on the first floor and the staff is mostly women. The inventory also includes a lot of authors I wouldn’t have known about before. Same with the donations we get and the book sales.

 

[Markness]

Markness - you have a job which many people don't have. You can always post about your job, your accomplishments at your job, and things you've learned along the way. Those are definitely worthy achievements that many people never succeed in doing.

I’ve learned about all sorts of authors whose books I now or are about to read and I’ve been told I am good at shelving material as well as getting it in order.

 

[Mary Terry]

I’ve learned about all sorts of authors whose books I now or are about to read and I’ve been told I am good at shelving material as well as getting it in order.

It is so frustrating to not be able to find a library book because it is not where it is supposed to be. The patrons at your library are lucky to have someone knowledgeable and conscientious like you to do the reshelving. I can remember feeling panicked about not being able to find a certain book that I needed to write an essay or a research paper in college because the book was not where it was supposed to be.

I think it's a luxury to have all those wonderful books right there at your job. If I worked there, I'd probably be sneaking off somewhere to read something wonderful instead of doing my job!

Does your library also have movies and videotapes that can be checked out?

 

[Uri]

Attraction is mostly a genetic thing in my opinion.

Biological research has shown over and over again that people who have similar genetics are usually extremely sexually attracted to each other.

There has been a lot of research on genetic attraction and scientists have also discovered that Heterozygote advantage and Major histocompatibility complex plays a huge role in sexual selection.

So you either have the correct set of genes or you don't.

 

[Masked Man]

All you have to do is go outside and you can see regular couples who are not genetically perfect who are in relationships.

No matter how physically attractive a guy is, if he opens his mouth and a lot of garbage comes out, or if he's a shut-in, or if he's rude, etc., he's likely to not be very popular - unless he's wealthy or has some other tangible asset that he can offer. For regular guys, you have to learn to communicate, have good grooming, and get out of your own heads. Being a kind human being helps too.

 

[Markness]

It is so frustrating to not be able to find a library book because it is not where it is supposed to be. The patrons at your library are lucky to have someone knowledgeable and conscientious like you to do the reshelving. I can remember feeling panicked about not being able to find a certain book that I needed to write an essay or a research paper in college because the book was not where it was supposed to be.

I think it's a luxury to have all those wonderful books right there at your job. If I worked there, I'd probably be sneaking off somewhere to read something wonderful instead of doing my job!

Does your library also have movies and videotapes that can be checked out?

Another reading headache is when you come across a book that looks good to read but you find out it’s book #3 out of #5 and the first two aren’t available. When I see this, I’ll see if there is any way the library can get the other titles in the series. Sometimes it can, sometimes not.

Employees are actually discouraged from reading on the job but that doesn’t stop anyone from trying, even those who came up with the rule.

The library used to carry videotapes in addition to DVDs. The VHSs got phased out in favor of having more DVDs and blu-rays.

 

[AuAL]

I can remember feeling panicked about not being able to find a certain book that I needed to write an essay or a research paper in college because the book was not where it was supposed to be.

I can remember, when at uni, there were students who would deliberately “re-shelve” books that were crucial to assignments so they could use them and others couldn’t find them. If @Markness can come up with a solution to that problem, future students for years to come would probably put up a statue to remember him. (Hint: liaison with departments on “currently critical” texts might help - that’s what the short loans/reference section is for. But I can’t think of an absolute solution, off the cuff, that doesn’t involve CCTV.)

 

[Mary Terry]

I can remember, when at uni, there were students who would deliberately “re-shelve” books that were crucial to assignments so they could use them and others couldn’t find them. If @Markness can come up with a solution to that problem, future students for years to come would probably put up a statue to remember him. (Hint: liaison with departments on “currently critical” texts might help - that’s what the short loans/reference section is for. But I can’t think of an absolute solution, off the cuff, that doesn’t involve CCTV.)

If books could be microchipped so their location could always be tracked, it would help solve the problem. But that would be prohibitively expensive, and libraries are already struggling financially.

 

[Mary Terry]

Another reading headache is when you come across a book that looks good to read but you find out it’s book #3 out of #5 and the first two aren’t available. When I see this, I’ll see if there is any way the library can get the other titles in the series. Sometimes it can, sometimes not.

Employees are actually discouraged from reading on the job but that doesn’t stop anyone from trying, even those who came up with the rule.

The library used to carry videotapes in addition to DVDs. The VHSs got phased out in favor of having more DVDs and blu-rays.

Do you ever check out the DVDs and watch them at home? What kind of movies do you like?

 

[Markness]

Do you ever check out the DVDs and watch them at home? What kind of movies do you like?

I do every once in a while. These days, I tend to choose movies that take me out of this world, so to say, and into one that has things this one doesn’t have. However, I realize that a good story is the most important aspect of a movie and there are realistic movies I prefer over fantastical ones.

I forgot that the library carries audio books and music CDs as well. I’ve checked out a lot of CDs to hear more bands as well as genres I didn’t hear much in my developmental years.